Dogs mark their territory by peeing on their favorite tree. Apparently, men mark their territory by using their dog to assert dominance over the women and children of the family. At least, according to this one wild Reddit. This dad (who is apparently a full adult, although we haven’t seen much proof of that), refuses to give up his dog’s room for his newborn baby. Yeah, we’re scratching our heads, too.
In the “Am I The A—hole?” subreddit, a mom writes that she and her husband Chris live in a four-bedroom house with OP’s two daughters, ages 16 and 10. Husband and wife share a room and the daughters each have their own room, which should leave just enough space for the new arrival to have their own room, too. Except that’s where the dog sleeps…
“Now with a baby on the way, we’ve been going back and forth on where we should put the nursery. My husband flatout said that his dog’s room was ‘off limits’ and casually asked me to pick one of the girls rooms and have them them share a room.”
How is this a debate — or more than a five-minute conversation? It should be:
Wife: “Hey, the baby’s almost here, let’s set up her nursery.”
Husband: “OK, I’ll move the dog’s crate and toys to the living room this weekend.”
End of discussion!!! Yet, he unbelievably prioritizes his dog’s privacy over his own kids, which is especially strange since dogs typically love being around their humans, not locked up in a room alone.
The mom couldn’t believe it either.
“I was shocked when he suggested that,” she wrote. “I argued with him asking if he was serious about this suggestion. Then called him unreasonable. he yelled at me saying I can not be acting shocked and call him the unreasonable one when my 10 year old daughter has a room all for herself. I flipped and called him delusional and we had a big argument then stopped talking to each other.”
This man actually compared a dog having his own room to a 10-year-old kid having her own room? On what planet are these two things actually comparable? As someone who grew up without the space for their own room, I know just how valuable not sharing is. Yet, this dad has his panties in a wad. “He’s pissed saying I clearly think so little of his dog to be so willing to kick him out of his room. then reminded me of who’s hpuse this is which I thought was….uncalled for and unfair since I’ve been paying more towards the mortgage and all that,” she added. This guy and his patriarchal bullsh-t can take a hike!
The mom added a few clarifications at the end to explain more about his bizarre behavior.
“And btw, the girls are his stepdaughters not biological daughters,” she wrote, which shouldn’t even matter, but apparently it does to this guy. “He even made a comment about asking their bio dad to pay to build a room in the house. Of course he was being sarcastic.” Whoa! Jealous, much? He’s acting like a toddler!
She also added that he’s had the dog for four years, and he is super overprotective of him. “There’s always a fuss in the house because he thinks that my family and friends scare the dog and give him ‘bad vibes’ and so he provides him with his own space,” she wrote. “Dog’s sleeping most of the time in that room, doesn’t even do anything with all the stuff my husband put inside. Basically wasted space in my opinion. It’s been like this since my girls and I moved in. It’s his house so there isn’t much I could do to change it.”
It sounds like he has major pride issues that need to be addressed, as he’s trying to give his dog equal weight to the kids. It’s OK for pets to be a part of the family, but this is going way, way too far.
And it’s hurting the kids, too!
“Also, my 16 year old isn’t having it,” the mom added. “She’s telling me that she’d go live with her grandma if this scenario happens which makes it even worse now I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place. Even before this happened, He’s always thought it’d be better if the girls shared a room but I insisted on my older getting a room for herself. He thought that would divide the girls and put distance between them but in my opinion, a 10 year old and a 16 year old siblings don’t spend much time together anyway. Exceptions when my older is watching her sister when I go out of town.”
She also said that she isn’t entertaining the idea of having the dog and baby share a room. “While the dog is pretty much quiet and no active, I still have concerns,” she wrote.
The comments were alive with comments about this ridiculous dad.
“NTA. Dogs don’t need their own room. Dogs are cool, but they are pets. There is no ‘compromise,’” one person wrote. “Humans get a room over dogs.”
“NTA, I’m scared to know how this guy is going to act when there’s a baby in the house,” another commented. “A whole room for a dog? I’m all for pets being treated like family but come on! The only bad vibes in this house are coming from him.”
“I’m sorry this is a no brainer. NTA!” someone else wrote. “Your husband is though. A dog does not need a room to himself. They have the whole fucking house to sleep and lounge in. A dog does not need a room more than a new born baby. Your husband is a controlling asshat.” Couldn’t agree more!
“NTA – You need to neuter him before there are any more problems,” another said. Seriously, this man should definitely not be pro-creating anymore with that attitude!
One person had the perfect solution. “Put your husband in the room with the dog and the bassinet with you,” they wrote.
Exactly! If the dog’s room is so important, he can sleep there, too. You’ve made your doggy bed, sir, now go lie in it!
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